An old request
As I continue to deal with my chemo, I’m finding myself getting more and more frustrated when people ask how I’m doing. So I wanted to resubmit a request from early on in my journey. If possible, ask, “How are you doing today or How are you doing now?” It may seem trivial but to me it is a much less nebulous quest than how am I doing.
As I deal with this new round of chemo (which is better this time around — the docs lowered my dose) it is just easier for me to say to people that I’m doing okay (or not) at the moment. Last night I was doing fine until I decided to try and drink some water – then I was decidedly not okay (leaning over the porcelain throne emptying my stomach’s contents). Things change rapidly. I’m just saying.
Please don’t take this as an admonition. I just want people to know what types of communication work best for me. Thanks for all the support and love. I am even going to try and go to work today, so I’m getting adventurous. 
Merle
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“I’m sure I’ll feel better tomorrow”
Best,
jeanne
so, how ya doin’?
looking forward to lunch soon.
I guess the good thing is they are asking! I have a lot of people who have NEVER asked how I am doing. That’s when I started clearing out my FB friends. if you can go six months without (a) noticing I have cancer or (b) checking in to maybe let me know you’re thinking about me sometime, well, I don’t really need the “friend count”, y’know?!
Definitely here you on the “right now.” Especially during chemo. Some days I was sick, some days I couldn’t taste anything, some days I had tingling in my fingers. Surprising how many people think you’re going to feel like crap ALL the way through your treatment.
Hi Merle,
I just wanted you to know I was thinking about about you. I am glad you mentioned what not to say because sometimes it is just hard to know what to say. I appreciate your blog. Hang in there and I will look forward to seeing you at Wood Badge. I am glad we are on the same team.