What a Week!!!

Hello all!  MaryBeth and I have just returned from a trip to paradise.  Last year, I was supposed to attend a conference in Budapest and, well, I got cancer which shot that trip all to hell.  MaryBeth and I had been planning that trip for TWO (count ‘em 2) years.  Well, it turns out that this year, my annual conference for the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality conference was going to be held in Puerto Vallart, Mexico.  Well, Mexico is not Budapest, but apparently it’ll do in a pinch.

The conference ran from Thursday (11/5) to today (Sunday — 11/8).  My friend Pete had turned me onto a deal at an all-inclusive for earlier in the week, so MB and I flew out to Mexico last Monday and we stayed at the all-inclusive from Monday to Thursday and then we stayed at the conference hotel Thursday to today.  You know, when we landed in Puerto Vallarta last Monday, the pilot of our flight said “Welcome to Paradise!”  He was right.

I cannot begin to describe how wonderful this vacation was for MB and me.  We’ve had a very challenging summer and this was a PERFECT opportunity for MB and I to get away (without kids — thanks grandma) and recconnect with each other.  MB spent much of the week sleeping as much as she wanted.  In between naps, we ate and drank and relaxed and enjoyed each others company.  The all-inclusive (Canto del Sol) was perfectly reasonable — a good, solid 3-star resort.  My friend Pete (who told me about a deal at the resort) and his partner were at the same all-inclusive and each evening we sat on the deck and watched the sun set (while enjoying adult beverages).  The Westin Resort was fabulous!  Did I mention we had a great week?   Here is a quick slideshow of some of the pictures I took while in PV:

I cannot begin to describe how much I enjoyed having the last week with MB.  Great big, HUGE, thank yous to my mother-in-law, Elaine, for watching the kids while we were away.

In other news, I have officially set the date for TumorPalooza II — Saturday, August 14, 2010.  Set your calendars now.  Several of my new friends from PV have already said they are going to be there.  You see, August 14 is the 2-year anniversary of my Whipple surgery.  For those of you who don’t know, the majority of relapses of post-surgical pancreatic cancer occurs 18-24 months after surgery.  Thus, on August 14th, we’re gonna celebrate my making that milestone.  There’s going to be food…there’s going to be adult beverages…there’s going to be music by men in skirts (well, kilts — the Lost Boys will be in the house).  It’s going to be a blast…be there or not, but if not, you’ll be sorry!



  1. In November, the beach is very much preferable to Budapest! Looks like a great trip!

  2. Looks like a fun time. Great photos! Those guys on the pole are CRAZY!!!! :)

  3. In case you didn’t notice, I didn’t make it to PV … my body betrayed me and decided to be in too much pain to travel. the pictures only make me more jealous of all I missed. Glad it was a good time for you.

  4. Hi guys,

    It was great to meet you in PV. I don’t know about you guys, but I miss the warm sun and ocean waves! Here’s a link to my photo page. You can go here to get copies of the photos: http://gallery.mac.com/jmikewilkerson


  5. Hi guys!

    Hello from old friends from Upstate NY. I am sorry to hear about the cancer – it hits home since my sister in Germany recently got diagnosed with breast cancer as well.

    Let’s try to reconnect a bit – check out the website and leave an email that way (I don’t really want to publish my email address …). So many things since we last saw each other about 15 years ago …

  6. My dear Merle: Good things come to those who soldiered on when things looked bleak> I too passed my P.E.T. Scan last month with a nod to one tumor that must be addressed with radiation Dec. 28th. I look at a copy of Psalm 121 posted at the kitchen sink where my mind is a blank usually. It gives me energy to look up to the hills, not down in the dumps. I think we both are Protected and we each will live more years as family. Put your trust firmly where you will stop using energy on worry. That leaves time for planning the fun times ahead. See you in N.J. With love…

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