Patriarchal Downturn

Turns out Dad continues to face challenges. He has not been eating (or drinking) much these days. As a result, he was hospitalized today for dehydration. We remain hopeful that he’ll be better once he’s rehydrated. I’m scheduled to head down later this week, but if necessary, I will leave sooner rather than later. I may check with my oncologist about changing my CT scans and follow-up appointment. If I didn’t have those, I wouldn’t hesitate getting in the car and heading down (not that there is anything I can do, but I want to be there for him).

I wish I knew what to do about my feelings. For a long time, my father and I were not particularly close. It seems that only in the last couple of years (starting in ’07 when I had my shoulder surgery), did we start to become closer. That trend continued when we had the shared experience of having cancer and throughout his prolonged health challenges. I am not quite sure how to deal with how I am feeling; good thing I have a therapist appointment on Tuesday.

Positive thoughts, prayers, etc. directed toward Sarasota, please!

Merle

  1. You and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers, but there will definitely be very special ones directed toward your dad in Sarasota.
    Peace and love, Carolyn

  2. This may sound a little strange, but I was so happy to read in your blog that you and your father now have the gift of a close relationship. I never had that with my own father, and never even said “I love you” until he was in a coma on the day he died. It wasn’t until several years after his death that I was able to realize, through memories, his love for me. You and your dad are very fortunate.

    Carolyn

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